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“You don’t know even this”

“The Child is the father of the man” is the famous expression of William Wordsworth is his poem “My heart Leaps Up”. This has a very deep meaning. But critically analyzing the statement in my way, I concluded that there is no connection between age and wisdom. Sometimes a child teaches us so many great lessons of life which we are unable to understand as adults. The brain of a child is like a clean slate. When it observes the world, various questions arise. That’s why the child asks lots of questions. Because he is inquisitive. But as we grow old, we start hesitating. We don’t want others to know our lack of experience and knowledge. Instead of clarifying the doubts, we find it better to keep mum to avoid trolling, humiliation and bullying. The famous dialogue, “You don’t know even this” is not less than an atom bomb which destroys the very base of knowledge, wisdom, strong personality and confidence. Sometimes some teachers use the same dialogue for the students of higher classes to make them realize that they have not learned anything from their previous standards. But this attitude can play havoc with the life and career of children.  Not only teachers, sometimes parents also use such terminology to guide the children which is absolutely wrong.  

We all should change our attitude.  Rather than making fun of others, try to explain the things. It hardly matters, how old the person is. If someone wants to know something, treat him like a child. I am sure, it would definitely boost their confidence and you will a change in the behavior and personality. 

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What is FOMO?

Have you ever felt sad or depressed after visiting your friends profile on facebook, instagram or whtsapp status? Please don’t. There is a hell lot of difference between real life and life on social media. According to a report, the major problem that today’s youth have been facing is FOMO (Fear of missing out).  The information displayed on social media accounts is not true in all the cases. Sometimes in order to present an idealistic picture of family, relations and achievements, people post such things which make others feel insecure. They feel that others are having more fun or availing better opportunities. They believe that they are missing out some information or chances available to others. This FOMO has resulted in depression, anxiety and unhappiness amongst many youngsters. How can we deal with this FOMO?

Remember some tips:

  • Facebook, instagram and all other social platforms are an illusion. They do not present the real picture.
  • Stop bothering about what other around you are doing.
  • Give attention to your aims and goals in life.
  • Stop looking at social media as a tool of happiness. It is just a way to connect to your friends.
  • Show your appreciation for the real life achievements. Try to take time out of your schedule to talk to your friends over phone and if possible try to visit them.
  • Adopt an attitude of gratitude.
  • Rather than feeling unhappy at others success, you should rather look at the bright side of the things.

Where do you see yourself?

Where do you see yourself in the coming ten years? A very common question being asked in the job interviews to most of the business graduates. I still remember the day when I appeared in the interview for the first time in my life. It was for Tata Consultancy services HR assistant. I answered almost all the questions like what is 360 degree appraisal, Syndicate training and bla bla. At the end the interviewee asked that very simple question which was quite expected to be asked. Like every average student, I replied, “I want to be a successful person.” Then she asked, what is success?” I was totally blank at that time. She smiled at me and I never got a call back. Now 10 years have passed since I did my post graduation. I don’t have an appropriate   answer of that second question yet. People define it in their own ways:

Barack Obama, “Success isn’t about how much money you make. It’s about the difference you make in People’s life.”

Stephen Covey, (writer of the book “7 habbits of highly effective people”) said, “If you carefully consider what you want to be said of you in the funeral experience you will find your definition of success.”

Bill Gates, “It is also nice to feel like you made a difference — inventing something or raising kids or helping people in need.”

Warren Buffett, “I measure success by how many people love me.”

Thomas Edison, “Success is 1% inspiration, 99% perspiration.”

Winston Churchill, “Success is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.”

I also did my self-introspection and found a few answers from within. Success doesn’t have any one definition. Success is the alternative word for satisfaction. A person is successful when he/she is satisfied with what he/she is doing and his/her achievements. Don’t forget to tell me in the comment section about your viewpoint of success.

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Persistence is the key to success.

Success does not come overnight. In childhood, I tend to believe that   “Hard work is the key to Success.” Because I was taught in the school. When I ended up my post graduation, suddenly the so called notion gets changed.  Now “Smart work is the key to Success.” How confusing it is.  Everyone defines the ways to be successful in his/her own way. But one thing which is common amongst all the great leaders and entrepreneurs of the world is; Persistence. Every winning story has a lots of failure attempts in the background. To name a few:

Thomas Edison failed a thousand times before inventing light bulb.

Stephen King, a famous writer, was not as famous in the early period of his career. He faced a number of rejections before getting famous.

J K Rowling faced many problems in her personal life. Before Harry Potter came to limelight, she was divorced barely living on charity/welfare.

George Luca famous for Hollywood movie franchise Star Wars was initially rejected by three famous studios: Disney, United Artists and Universal.

Walt Disney was fired from his newspaper job because his boss found lack of creativity in him. He disapproved it and the rest is history.

Jack Canfield famous for Chicken Soup series was rejected by 144 publishers.

Amitabh Bachhan famous for his acting in Indian cinema was rejected by a radio for poor voice quality. But he proved them wrong. Now his voice is his identity.

Rudyard Kipling the person who introduced Mowgli to us in his famous publishing “The Jungle Book” was fired from newspaper by the editor because his English was considered to be very poor.

So friends, don’t lose hope if you are facing struggle and failures in life. Never give up. Keep trying. Because “Persistence is the key to success.”

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Who is your best friend?

Sitting lonely in the basement on the very special day of my life, I was looking at the sky throughout the window. Years are passing by. With every year, there are new hopes, new resolutions, new targets and new goals. The list of aspirations is never ending. But one thing always remains the same. The wish to live more and more. How beautiful life is! Nobody wants to die.  Due to a pandemic, everyone is stucked at their places. No social life, no parties and no big functions. Thanks to mobile phones, internet and online world. Due to information Technology, I could celebrate my e-birthday. What if everything stop one day! What if there is no internet! What if the mobiles stop working! Just imagine. How life would be. I know, some of you might be scared at this thought. Always remember one thing. If someone is never going to leave you alone that person is you. Be a best friend of yourself. Love everything about yourself. Enjoy your own company. Trust me, you would feel better.

Who decided the right age?

Since the birth of a child, there is constant pressure on the poor fellow to achieve everything at a right age. For example;

 To be a graduate before the age of 25.

To get married before the age of 30

To have a child before 35

To own a house before 40

To retire at the age of 60

I ask you. Who decided this right age? Is this mentioned in the constitution of a country? Which religion has defined these boundaries? I know that you are totally blank at this time. Because there is no hard and fast rule of this age fundamental. It is just a self made rule of the society that gives depression and tension to the youngsters. Believe me, you are never too late and you are never too early. There are many people who finish their studies at the age of 22 but they have to wait for 3 to 4 years to get into a good job. There are many people who settle their career at an early age but die before 40. So my dear friends, there is no right age to do anything. You are eligible to study, to marry, to start a business, to own something at any stage of life.

Look at these people;

Henry Ford was 45 when he discovered his best model.

Vera Wang became a famous Fashion Designer at the age of 40.

Ray Kroc was 52 when he bought MacDonald.

Colonel Sanders, the original founder of KFC was 62 when he franchised his business.

Barrack Obama retires at the age of 55 while Donald Trump starts at 70.

If these people would have worked as per the age zones, I am sure they would have never dared to take the initiative at such a later stage. If you are worrying because your life is not going anywhere. Just chill guys and wait for the right moment.

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Who saw the ghost?

Hostel life is full of sweet and funny memories. But some incidents are unforgettable. Though all the hostels in the world are different but most of them have one thing is common. Guess what? I know you must be thinking about mess food, hehehe. No. This is something scary. Yes you guessed it right. All the hostels of the world have some haunted stories or haunted rooms. Dated back to 2009 when I was doing  MBA and used to live as P.G. I wish I could live that life again except that night which  still gives me goose bumps. As usual, we all were in our respective rooms after the dinner time. Sita didi (maid) had gone after doing the dishes. We all were on our beds, ready to sleep. Suddenly I realized as if someone was knocking our door. Shockingly, there was no one. Five minutes later, I almost had a heart attack when the girls in the adjacent room started shouting and ran out of the room. Within seconds, all the girls were in the lobby. When asked, they said that there was a ghost who was knocking their door continuously. For a moment, I was scared too. I and my roommate tried to convince that it might due to windy weather. As expected, nobody was listening to us and nobody dared to go to their rooms. Everybody was telling the horror stories of one or the other kind. Ghost was the centre of attraction throughout the night. Irony of the fact is that nobody saw the ghost. I and my roommate were so tired that we chose to sleep in the room despite the fact that ghost might disturb us too. I don’t know whether ghost exist or doesn’t exist but the reality is, I still can’t sleep alone without light at night. I can’t lock the main gate of the house at night after watching a horror show. I still don’t dare to watch a horror movie at night. This is my story. Don’t forget to tell me in the comment section about your haunted memories.

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As a Rule, Man is a Fool

After talking to my refrigerator for 15 minutes, I switched to my laptop. After a while I realized that neither refrigerator nor laptop responded to any of my talks. How stupid I am! How can they respond? But I was not having any other option. Sitting totally alone in my basement, I was memorising the days when mom used to ask a lot of questions. All the time she was after my life and when I didn’t listen to her then she used to complain dad. Hey, my mom is still alive. I miss her because she is very far from me. But when she was near, I used to pray god to give me at least one day of loneliness. A day when nobody could disturb me. A day when I could talk to myself. A day dedicated to me. You know what? God fulfilled my wish. Nobody disturb me here. I use to wake up at 12.00 noon and sleep till 2:30 a.m. Nobody ask me if I have or haven’t my food. No restrictions, no queries. Somebody has rightly said, “As a rule, Man is a fool.” Now I wish, if my mom and dad could also stay with me in Canada. Would that there were no restrictions on visitors. As per William Shakespeare, the entire world is a stage. We all are mere actors playing our role. But we sometimes forget that the play of life is a team work. Best performance cannot be expected without the team members. Parents, Siblings, Spouse, Children, Relatives and friends all are a part of this drama. Trust me, playing alone is really depressing. Sometimes situations force you to separate and sometimes it’s your choice. In both the conditions, loss is yours. I hope you understand.

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The Girl that has Everything

To kill time in quarantine period, I was watching the videos of Holi party organised by the daughter of India’s richest person Mr. Mukesh Ambani. What a marvellous party it was! Flooded with elite industrialists, bollywood starts and political personalities, Isha Piramal Ambani’s party was not less than a heaven on earth. Deep into my thoughts, I started dreaming of such a wonderful future. Would that I won a lottery! Would that I earned alot in the share market! Would that I could find a treasure some day! Would that I be able to throw a party better than this! Simultaneously I was sad over the pity state of mine. I don’t have my own house. I left my settled career and struggling once again. One more time in my life, I can feel myself at the same stage where I was 10 years back. My inner conscious was pinching me and reminding me of all the things that I don’t have or I couldn’t achieve till date.  This pain was even more aggravating when I saw others marching ahead in life. May be I felt jealous. May be its human nature.   My negativity was increasing the hollowness of my existence. Then I received the message from my friend. She said, “Dear I think you achieved everything that you wanted to have.”  For a moment, I thought, she was kidding with me. The next moment, I had a flashback of all the blessings showered by God. The list was so long that I forgot what I was mourning for! A Great family, Good education, satisfactory job, real friends, wonderful husband, lovable relatives and sound health. I realized, at present, I am the girl that has everything. Sometimes we become so much future driven and fascinated by the worldly pleasures that we totally forget what real happiness means. Remember, you cannot measure your success with someone else’s scale. What others are doing is none of your business. Life will become wonderful if we start looking at the blessings which we have but others are craving for. There may be many people who have earned a lot in their life but they might not have enjoyed the match of carom board and chess with their children. There may be many people who would be leading a luxurious life but they might not have enjoyed the fun of watching television with family. There may be many people having lots of servants at their service but they might be crying for the gossips with real friends. There may be many people who travel in high profile cars but they might not have enjoyed a morning walk with near and dear ones. Am sure, you all must be thinking of all those wonderful memories which are the real asset of your life.

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Six Feet of Land

As a child, I was always curious to grow big. Because I was always thinking that mom and dad were living a wonderful life. No school, No homework. How free they are?  My house was near to Girls College. Whenever I saw the girls, I always wanted to dress up like them. Wearing uniform was so boring. Hundreds of aspirations and dreams used to fantasize my mind. When I entered college, I used to look at the successful entrepreneurs and people earning well on jobs. Then I started dreaming of a reputable job with good money. The time came when I completed my college and finally got the job. I was like, now I would be very happy. But I was wrong. That was not the end rather beginning of the journey. I was entered into the race of money making. I got to know that success is measured by the bank balance you have. The more property, the more gold, the more money you acquire, the more respect and value you will earn. I still remember when someone made fun of me when I told her about my salary. It was the initial period of my career and my earning was really meagre. As soon as you step into this race, People start comparing. Trust me, comparisons are like a lice that sucks your blood. That day I learned that you do not have any personal value. That’s why people are mad after making huge properties. Alas! There is no end to this greed. Hang on! I remember the story of the greedy farmer. Who always asked god why he is not the number one farmer. One day a devil heard his story and gave him an option. The devil asked him to take a round of the land as much as he can. The land he would cover by foot would be given to him. But the only condition was that he had to return to the starting point before the sunset. The farmer became very happy. He started running very fast so that he could own a huge piece of land. After some time he was very tired. But he didn’t stop. He kept walking. When there was very less time in sunset, he thought to go back to the starting point. By now, he was dead tired. He could barely breathe. You would be surprised to know that he died when he reached the starting point. What do you learn out of this story? How much land does a man need? The farmer was buried into six feet of land. You don’t even need that if your body is to be burnt as per your religion. Then why are we letting down others for the worldly pleasures? Isn’t it better if we become the support system for each other? Isn’t it better if we value a human’s feelings and emotions more than the bank balance? Isn’t it better if we give more importance to peace of mind and satisfaction rather than properties and precious stones?

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